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SexVille Tuesday 10 things women want you to do to them in bed [Part 1]

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Like it or not, sex means a lot to women; in fact, it means more to them than it does to men. Forget the prude front they put up. A woman loves sex and when there is a connect with her man, she won't hesitate to bring out her true colours.

However, most of them are not as expressive as men are and therefore, may not be able to voice out what they actually want you to do to them on bed.

We have compiled a list of those things women want men to do to them to give them the greatest time during sex.

Here we go:

1. Giving her an orgasm even before the real intercourse starts

Giving your woman an orgasm even before your first thrust should always be your first target because this is by far biggest thing women wish men did more of in bed. Most men don’t do this – instead, they clumsily plow straight to intercourse, thrash around as fast as possible and they are done, even before she gets into first gear.

For such men, foreplay usually consists of a few minutes of obligatory kissing, followed by a few minutes of obligatory breast stimulation, followed by a few minutes of obligatory cunnilingus until the ultimate goal of intercourse is reached. This isn’t what women want!

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Read: "SexVille Tuesday: 10 ways to make your woman scream in bed [Part 1]"

If you can give a woman an orgasm before you penetrate her, then it is guaranteed to be good sex in her book and even if you don’t last as long as you’d like, she would still appreciate your effort.

Aside that, giving her an orgasm will make her more responsive and much more likely to have another orgasm during intercourse and in that sense, sex becomes better for you, and for her.

2. Pay attention to hidden erogenous zones

For the average man, the obvious erogenous spots on a woman's body and where they are likely to get aroused are the breasts, clitoris and the g-spot. And they pay so much attention to these places that they forget that there are hidden spots that are capable of giving pleasure to a woman.

Your woman does not want you to only pay attention to the obvious spots; she wants you to pay attention to her whole body.


This is because there are 16 other 'hidden' erogenous zones on her body which can give her pleasure, and which can actually make her more sensitive to vaginal stimulation. Most men don’t know about these, but if you’re one of the rare men who does, then she’ll be screaming your name in pleasure.

(NB: Keep a date as we unveil the 16 spots in the nearest future)

3. Last longer in bed

Yes, women love men that last long in bed but she won't mind if you also good with your fingers while you are at it.

Women hate it when a man shoots off too soon because it prevents them from having orgasms, but on the other hand, if you had successfully carried out step one, she won't mind so much.

On the whole, the average woman wants her man to be able to have that lasting prowess. How would you feel if a woman got you close to an orgasm, then all of a sudden stopped, rolled over, and went to sleep?

Read: "SexVille Tuesday: 10 ways to make your woman scream in bed [Part 2]"

You need to know how to last 30 minutes in bed at the minimum. If you really want to drive your woman wild, then you should learn how to last over an hour in bed. And of course you can have a 'quickie' once in a while, but most of the time, women will need a minimum of 30 minutes of intercourse to have multiple orgasms.


4. Tease her until she begs for it

A typical Nigerian man's ultimate aim during sex is to get it done with as fast as he possibly can. So once he is under the sheets with his wife, he just plows forward directly to his goal of intercourse with no finesse, just doing the minimum necessary to get to penetration.

But a woman wants a man who can tease her with his hands and tongue, till she is practically begging him to take her. She wants you to build her up to a sexual action with teasing, before giving her the final gratification.

For example, with oral sex, most men just dive right in. What would turn her on much more is if you kiss up her inner thighs, and breathe warmly on her vagina. Then, so lightly she can barely feel it, run your tongue over her clitoris.

Do this until she’s pleading with you to give her more and THEN give her the gratification. She’ll enjoy it about a hundred times more.

5. Giver her more oral sex please

Some men are so selfish they would not even dream of going down on their women. But they demand and enjoy oral sex so much they want it at every given time.

But hey, what is sauce for the goose should be sauce for the gander. If you want your woman to enjoy you to th ultimate, you should learn how to give her amazing oral sex. Don't just think you are good with the fingers as they are not adequate replacement for the tongue.


If you know how to do it right, giving her oral sex is the fastest and easiest way to give your woman an orgasm. Once you make her finish well through oral sex, she will be much more responsive during the real intercourse.

Watch part for Part 2.

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