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Blow Job Tips How to give him head if you have a small mouth or you choke easily

Blow jobs come with its own sets of challenges. Here are ways to overcome some of them.

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Blow job tips

With all the talk about blow jobs, one would think performing one on a man is as simple as licking a lollipop, but that is so not true.

Blow jobs come with its own sets of challenges. Most women might find that their mouth is too small to properly wrap around his member while others have such serious gag reflexes that as soon as the penis enters her mouth, she automatically chokes it out.

If either of these scenarios sound like you, then you need special tips and tricks to make things a lot easier.

Practice with your finger

You can desensitize your gag reflex a bit using this routine: Take your pointer finger and place it on the tip of your tongue. Hold them there and breathe deeply in through your nose until you feel relaxed. Then scoot your finger back a centimeter and hold them there until you relax. Repeat this process until you get to the point where your gag reflex gets triggered. Keep your finger on that spot and focus on your breathing until you feel the reaction start to subside. (You may feel your tongue moving around under your finger; that’s perfectly normal.) If your gag reflex feels too strong, take your finger out, give yourself a break, then try again. Once you’ve mastered one finger, repeat the whole process with two fingers, then three. This process takes time and daily practice, but it can work wonders

Breathe during the process

Getting your gag reflex activated is a scary feeling, by design. It’s hard not to get freaked out when you feel yourself starting to choke! It’s extremely important that you breathe in and out through your nose. This will help prevent you from gagging, and will also help soothe your anxiety.

Avoid deep-throat

A lot of women try to replicate the blowjob they see in porn, which typically involve lots of deep throating. In reality, most women can’t deep throat, no matter how much they practice. It’s also not an essential part of a good blowjob. Seriously, you can give amazing blowjobs without deep throating. Try to reset your expectations.

Slow down

A lot of women think they should be bobbing up and down on the penis at breakneck speed during a blowjob (we blame porn for this too). That type of movement is a one-way street to gagging. Instead, keep your head relatively still, and focus on licking or sucking. You can move up and down a bit, but you don’t need to do much.

Focus on the head

Conveniently, the majority of the nerve endings in the penis are in the head. This is one of the main reasons why it isn’t necessary to deep throat. You can provide way more stimulation with your mouth than you can with the back of your throat. Try some of these techniques;

Wrap your lips around the base of his head and suck.

Move your head up and down right along the ridge of his head.

Swirl your tongue around his head.

Keep your tongue wide and flat, and lick the seam on the underside of his head.

READ: 4 ways to get her to give you the best blow job ever

Use your hand

Perhaps the best trick for people with small mouths and sensitive gag reflexes is to get your hand involved. Your hand can do some of the work, and can free your mouth up to focus on the more sensitive head. Plus, your hand can provide a contrasting type of sensation. You can use more pressure than you can with your mouth. Wrap your hand around the base of his penis and slowly stroke up and down while you try some of the aforementioned techniques on the head. Let some saliva drip out of your mouth to give your hand plenty of lubrication.

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Or both hands

If your mouth is really small, you can use both hands! Put one hand over the other, and slide them up and down in tandem as you lick the head. Or try gently twisting your hands as you move them up and down. Your hands can provide so much stimulation that you won’t even have to put his penis in your mouth.

Positions

Most women perform oral when their partners are lying flat on the bed. This can be a challenging position since your throat is at a 90-degree angle. It’s easy for the head of his penis to hit the back of your throat, triggering your gag reflex. Instead, try lying on your back with your head draped over the edge, and have your partner approach you while standing or kneeling (depending on the height of your bed). This makes your throat straight and easier to penetrate. This position can be uncomfortable for some women since you’re not in control, so I’d suggest only doing it with partners you really trust. Go really slow at first and communicate with your partner until you feel comfortable.

Respect your limits

You should not be pressured to do what you are physically unable to. These tips should help if you actually want to do better, but not if you are being coerced or made to feel like a failure. You should go as far as you are comfortable with.