Celebrity Relationships Do Not Work For This One Reason

wemi esho

December 8, 2014 5:55 PM

In this week's Monday Musings, Pulse.ng's Music Editor, explains the the basic underlying truth behind celebrity breakups and divorce.

Plenty of times we are quick to get out of the blocks with accusation and condemnation when we read stories of another failed celebrity marriage. We treat every single breakup as an isolated case, dwelling on the specifics and taking sides while we watch on with immense fascination.

Ini Edo breaks up with her husband, and we are in gossip heaven. Tiwa Savage goes through a lot of friction in her marriage to Tee Billz, and we fall over ourselves watching in guilty delight and contributing with our comments and displaced analysis.

We are wrong on that score. And we have failed to truly understand the workings of celebrity marriages, and what ultimately makes it brittle. What is simply needed is a push through the surface to the basic underlying principle behind these marriages. Only with that can we understand the basic truth behind the unsteady union involving celebrities.

Here’s the truth. Relationships are built to be real. Celebrities are conditioned to be fake. You cannot take fake people, bind them in a real union, and expect the forces and dynamics of human relationship to be in balance. Fake people in real situations cannot be made to exist and operate in tandem.

The entertainment world is all based on simulation. None of what you see is real. Everything is calculated and crafted and delivered specifically to create an effect of glamour, glitter and show. People who operate in these circles are expected by society to be larger than life, and to achieve this, they slowly erode their humanity.

Marriages and the profession of love are sacred unions and commitments that are fundamental in the cycle of life. Nature hangs on the balance between death and creation, which is ultimately what marriage leads to; the beginning of new life. It is real, it is sane, and it is natural.

Entertainment and nature cannot be mixed in their true form. The bond will be one of uneven attraction, and so, will not hold true. Reality begets reality. Simulation begets simulation.

This underlying fact forms the base of all celebrity breakups. Very few succeed in the union, and that is because both parties walked down the road of true self-discovery and sincerity to create a life that is real and unique.

Another reason why some of them last the distance is because the entertainers themselves are real in their craft. Joke Silva and Olu Jacobs are true to their craft. They are personified by the roles they play in a great part of their Nollywood movies, and that is ultimately the reason for their success in life and marriage. They are a dying breed, the last of a thin line of sincere entertainers.

But for the rest of them, mixing nature and entertainment is an effort at futility, no matter the feelings and promises. Time breaks it all.

wemi esho