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What it means to love with your head & not just your heart

It is very possible to put a rein on every form of love-powered recklessness and thoughtless actions. Here's how.

Yet there is a limit to the silly things one can be excused for doing in the name of love. So while it is OK to fall head over heels in love sometimes, isn’t it better to be a little more cautious and careful so as to avoid the unnecessary mistakes and trauma that emanate from them?

In a previous article published here, we listed the five traits reckless lovers have.

But how does one fall in love without being reckless? A clear answer is to advice you to stop falling head over heels in love, and instead enter into relationships with your brain and your heart.

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But it’s not that easy. As the first paragraph of this article reads, love makes people do some dumb things. But as true as that might be, you can still put a rein on that love-influenced stupidity, and the three steps below will assist you to do so.

1. Take your time

You can’t ‘fall in love’ with everyone who smiles at you or tells you some sweet words. It takes a while to get an idea of who someone is, let alone actually knowing them thoroughly.

Why not take your time to look well before you leap into that romance? You don’t rush heedlessly into these things. As a wise man I know often says “if you rush into it, you’ll rush out.”

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2. Ask questions

If there are things you are not so sure about, ask him or her

Don’t be carried away by their flattery or fluttering eye lashes. It is better to learn of their habits before you enter into the relationship than when you are in it.

If you know people who can give you honest, well-balanced opinions about them, don’t hesitate to ask those people.

3. Don’t be too quick to discredit the things you hear

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Not everyone is out to ruin the good thing you have, and not everyone is a hater so be careful before discrediting the things people say about your partner.

You know what they say, “no smoke without fire.”

So maybe it’ll help to pay some attention to the things you hear about your partner.

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