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Relationship talk "How do I get her to stop being a drama queen?"

I feel if she can do away with being overdramatic, we could have a shot at happiness.

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Relationship Talk


There is this girl that I like so much and we are actually good friends. We have been friends for about a year and eight months now.

I’ve always felt the need to be more than friends with her but something keeps holding me back most times. I feel she is too dramatic, always making a big deal out of the smallest things, annoyingly making everything about her and all that stuff.

When she gets like that, I just become speechless because I am a laidback kind of guy and I hate being stressed.

This happens on a number of occasions and when it does, it just makes me wonder again if this is the kind of girl I want. Apart from that, though, I really like her.

It’s a major issue with me, her overdramatic nature. I feel if she can do away with it, we could have a shot.

Now the thing is, how do I tell her this as subtly as possible so she won’t go overboard? What is your opinion on this?

My opinion is that no one deserves to walk on eggshells with a partner. Having said that, I strongly believe that there is no way to go about this than outrightly talking to her about it.

Whether or not she goes overboard should not be an issue with you. As a matter of fact, it should be a pointer into whether you really want to be with her or not.

If she flies off the handle because you point out her flaw to her, does that show that she is ready to change? Of course not.

If she takes it gently and listens to your reasons and logic though, I feel something good can happen between you two.


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