Find Love on Sugar Daddy: An afternoon with Amira

I have always wondered what women would choose if it ultimately came down to it. Money or Love? Sacrifice or Soft life? What will they go with? Are you curious to find out? Stay with me…

This is how I met 28-year-old Amira. I wanted to know her thoughts on love, relationships, and whether she would choose love or money in a relationship. Amira was a Master's degree student at the American University of Nigeria, Yola, it was distance learning that worked quite well for her as she also had a boutique in Ikoyi to run. She was a gorgeous woman who stood at 5 '6 tall, she smelled incredibly expensive. I asked if she would grant me an interview to talk about love and relationships after our mutual friend connected us, I told them that I needed Nigerian women to interview and she told our mutual friend that she would be happy to. We picked a restaurant, day, and time. It was for 12 pm, Amira was not late and I liked that about her. We sat down over brunch at Flower Shop Cafe, and let me tell you, she arrived all garbed in Luxe Designer and she was dropped off by a chauffeur who opened the door for her to step out. Her skin was beautiful, shiny, and soft, she looked like something out of a magazine. She wasn’t even wearing any makeup. I spent 10 minutes taking her in. I had thought she’d be snobbish or unkind but she was the total opposite.

The first thing I asked her was about her thoughts on love. She expressed that love is something no human on earth can avoid, as the bond holds us together. When I asked if love was important to her, she affirmed that it is, particularly emphasizing the love of family and friends. This prompted me to inquire further about love in romantic relationships. She replied that it was a necessary evil and if it was meant to happen, it would happen, it’s not something she stresses over. Even though she was in a relationship, she considered other aspects more important. This led me to ask her whether she prioritised love or financial stability in a relationship. She responded by questioning why she had to choose one when she could have both. I explained that I was simply curious about people's perspectives on their desired types of relationships.

She sighed, smiled, and looked at me for some time before saying that she and most women in Nigeria would most definitely be with someone more for financial stability than love. She revealed that her current relationship was first based on the fact that her partner is wealthy and he looks after her financially, mentally, and intellectually, even though they have been together long enough to consider that they both love each other, they both understand that the foundation of their relationship was based on temporary feelings. She needed someone to support her lifestyle while she focused on getting her second Master’s and she didn’t want to work as she considered that a distraction. This led to her discovering an elite dating platform called Sugardaddy.ng and that’s how she found Femi. I asked how it was going with Femi and she started blushing. I wanted the entire story: how they met, how they got talking, what made it move to the next level and Amira was happy to oblige.

She said once she signed up to the platform, she connected with a few members but Femi spoke out to her the most, it felt like he was the only one who REALLY saw her. She told him all about her needs and wants, and what she wanted in a relationship, and he did the same. He wasn’t in the country during the first month of their connecting so all they did was text on the platform all day and all night long. They got to know each other well, he even told her where he lived whenever he was in Lagos. During this time, he sent gifts to her house and her boutique in Ikoyi. The day he got back in the country, he showed up at her house in Ikoyi, with boxes and boxes of goodies. He did not give her any time to breathe it in. He told her he was taking her out. He took her shopping for a date outfit complete with shoes and accessories, next up was full glam makeup and hair installation and then the big reveal, he turned one of the Penthouses in Eko Atlantic to the restaurant of her dreams, where they had dinner and talked for hours. She said it felt like they had known each other all their lives and this began the start of a beautiful, new relationship.

For the next 6 months, all they did was travel to exotic places, go on shopping sprees, spend lavishly on whatever she wanted, and just spend time together. He invested heavily in her boutique and she was able to open a new branch in Lekki. These stores had their managers so all she did was supervise. It was a stress-free life. Their connection was like no other. This was the 8th month of their relationship, and she says that it's gotten calmer as he is out of the country for a few months for work and she’s using this time away from him to focus on her education and her business. And even though he is out of the country, they speak daily, she lives in his Penthouse and he sends her weekly gifts. She will be traveling to Italy in 2 months to spend some time with him. Flights have already been booked.

I asked her if her relationship fulfills her, and she responded that she is very much fulfilled, and satisfied and she will have it no other way. I asked what her advice was for any woman reading this, and she said she would advise them to have their own life and money first before looking for an elite relationship, you have to be elite to attract success. Also, you need to be bold, daring, and confident, it is also very important to have boundaries with your partner. And to be safe, definitely sign up on www.sugardaddy.ng.

It was a very refreshing conversation and I learned a lot from Amira. It was a lot to take in and it spurred my need to have more conversations like these. I thanked Amira for her time and asked her plans for the rest of the afternoon and she told me Femi heard she was going for an interview and booked her a spa day after to relax and calm her nerves. I was very much in shock. And even though I offered, Amira paid for our brunch and offered to drop me back at the office. I did not decline.

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