Trying to hide the rot in a relationship is like trying to hide the smoke from a burning forest.
If you and your partner are battling a not-so-ideal situation, people will likely notice and those close enough will ask questions.
The answers you give could tell whether your relationship is just going through a rough patch, or if things are so bad that it'd be downright unwise for you to still remain in the relationship.
So if you find yourself using the following phrases to explain your relationship, there’s a pretty high chance that there are big problems in that relationship.
1. Every relationship has its issues
That’s you trying to rationalize the constant recurrence of something wrong in that marriage/relationship.
2. Fighting makes you stronger
Not all the time, dear. When fighting becomes too much it could ruin your relationship.
3. It could be worse
Now you are resigning to having your partner treat you wrong. This way you are not thinking of how to make things better, you are being grateful for the wrong treatment you are getting.
4. Life isn’t a fairytale
Well, for some people love is indeed a fairytale. Aim higher.
5. Relationships are about sacrifice
Yes, you are right to say this. But the sacrifice needs to come from both partners, not just from one end.
6. I need to start being realistic
This is the excuse people give just when they are about lowering their standard to meet their partner's tame effort at being a 'partner'.
7. Everything does not have to be about sex
Fix the communication in your relationship fast. You need to stop giving these flimsy excuses that everyone can see through.
8. Relationships are hard work
That’s what you say if you haven’t been having much joy in your relationship.
9. No couple is really as happy as they seem
Actually there are people who are just as happy as they look, and your relationship is meant to be just like that too.
Stop downplaying the happiness in other people’s relationships just to rationalise the unhappiness in yours.
10. We actually don’t have to talk everyday
This is exactly what people say when their sex life has gone terribly bad.