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For Women How to retain your self after marriage

Marriage often does a total transformation to women. What if you could retain some parts of your pre-marriage identity?

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How to retain your self after marriage


Marriage is sweeter when a couple can engage in many activities together, when a husband and his wife share a lot in common.

play The whole of your life does not necessarily need to be centered around your marriage (Madamenoire)

No matter how numerous their shared interests are, though, it is not uncommon to find out that they still have one or two things that are specific to each of them- a kind of activity enjoyed only by one of them.

For the wife, this article teaches you how to ensure that you don't lose everything about your life before marriage.

So, how does a woman not lose herself after she's gotten married?

Spoil yourself

Women naturally put their family before themselves. Your kid needs to be comfortable, your husband, in-laws, etc.

However, you cannot pile all these worries on yourself and neglect to actually take a break and enjoy the fine things of life. That’s not wise.

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Take time out, put your leg up, get a massage, go for a pedicure or manicure, go to a spa. Just pamper yourself.

God knows you surely deserve this.

play Try to get with friends once in a while. Especially the ones you have known for a long, long time (Bossip)

Girls’ outings

Occasionally, you need this. It might be only once or twice in three months or so, but you do need to.

Hang out somewhere, go see movies, or just go out and catch up on what’s been happening in each other’s lives over time.

Marriage should not necessarily be the end of all your friendships.

Your friends should still remain your friends, [bar any major fights] especially if you have been tight for a long, long time.

play Pampering yourself regularly keeps you sharp and useful enough to actually be there for that family you love so much (4datwoman)


Don’t let go of old hobbies

There might be a lot of shared interests and activities that you both engage in, as a result of being married, and that is actually a good thing.

Couples bond deeper with these type of activities, but then, you should still keep the hobbies and interests that you had before marriage.

It does not spell the end of your marriage, and does not mean you no longer love your husband or wife, it simply means that you are concerned about preserving a part of you that you had even before becoming married.

Your spouse will surely understand that.

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