Why you keep getting into wrong relationships

oge okonkwo

October 15, 2015 9:42 AM

We see a red flag but choose to ignore them, our friends and family see it too but may not want to say anything about it

Unhappy couple

We meet someone and after sometime we begin to think we're in love, even telling our best friend and family that we have 'found the right one'.

Then somewhere down the line, we ask ourselves "what was I thinking"?

It has been gathered that 50 per cent of marriages around the world fail? Why do we try to force our partners to change, failing to realise that these people are happy the way they are?

READ: 7 ways you can finally get over heartbreak

What do we do in selecting the right romantic relationships? Why do we choose the wrong people who are unavailable and aren't like the way we expect.

In a TED talk by relationship expert, Alexandra Redcay, this kind of love starts off beautiful. Then we see a red flag but choose to ignore them, our friends and family see it too but may not want to say anything about it (doesn't mean they aren't concerned).

We respond to our loved ones by attacking them in other to defend our partner. There is a combination of red flags but we try to tell ourselves in a misguided way, that all relationships have their share of problems.

READ: The secret to a happy marriage

Our family and friends try to intervene again because they are really concerned. But we don't want to hear their opinion. We separate from our friends and our family separates from us.

After sometime you realise that they were right in the end and then despair follows.

Watch video below:

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