Golden traits that set you for marriage

amaka inyese

July 18, 2015 5:54 PM

Relationships aren’t about making your terrible life good. It’s about making your good life better

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The popular believe is that most people want to be married when they are successful financially because one always hear it a million times marriage is hard and is difficult to make it work. Like the saying goes ‘Clichés are clichés for a reason’ we have our mind so high up that we forget the truth they lay out so clearly and money can’t buy.

When you are ready to take the bold step of building a new world of marriage. You have to master the following traits.

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Trust is the foundation of any relationship. Even your job trusts you to perform a certain set of duties consistently over time in return for a specific amount of compensation. We trade given titles with our significant other, trusting that these titles now come with expectations of specific, consistent behaviour.

Girlfriend = I’ll see you at the very least on the weekends and you can expect to not catch me on social media taking selfies with other random women.

Boyfriend = If my car runs out of gas, you better be the person I can rely on to show up with petroleum.

Titles of husband and wife come with even more specific expectations that carry even more dire consequences if not met. Regardless of what’s happened to you in the past, if you don’t have the capacity to trust, you’re going to find a life full of slightly more solitude than those who found a way to still let people in.

Selfishness is the primary toxin of any relationship. When your individual needs outweigh the goals of the couple, everyone suffers. Selfish people tend to have difficulties empathizing with another person’s perspective. They just can’t see the world through another’s eyes.

If you haven’t learned how the world can operate without you, then you may not be ready for the sacrifice necessary for a relationship to prosper.

our world changes as much as theirs, and both of you should recognize the changes and sacrifice each has made to build a long lasting relationship.

Relationships aren’t about making your terrible life good. It’s about making your good life better. When people feel devoid of value, we tend to fill those voids with the most destructive branches of food, sex, drugs, and people.

Our whole consumer driven nation is fueled by a company’s ability to show you where your deficiencies are just to position itself as the solution to the problem you didn’t know you had 30 seconds ago.

When your issue is self-worth, there aren’t enough marriage proposals to fill that kind of void. No one outside of yourself is going to bring out that genuine daily smile. In fact, making such a permanent decision to have someone else in your life to validate your own sense of self has to be the number one cause of regret and resentment in the world throughout history.

amaka inyese