How can I be supportive of my boyfriend?

Dear Bukky,

My boyfriend is complaining about me. He says that I do not support or advise him. I only play with him, cook for him and make love to him. Please what should I do?____________

Dear reader,

I may not know you and your boyfriend or the dynamics of your relationship but let me assure you of one thing: if you regularly do any or all of the things you listed in that email, then you are surely supportive.

I don’t care what he or anyone else says; cooking, companionship and being there for someone is support… but it just might be insufficient.

So while it’s cool that you’d do all the things you say you do with him and for him, you may need to do more. Start by showing genuine interest in the things he does. His job, hobbies, interests, etc.

What are his dreams, what are the things that set his eyes sparkling? If you can show more interest and concern in those things then I don’t think this will remain an issue for longer.

Also while immersing yourself into the relationship this much, please make sure you are getting the same positive energy from him. If he is requesting this level of commitment, you are well within your ‘rights’ to hold him to that same standard. Don’t do too much for someone whose heart is set on doing so little. It never ends well.____________Do you want to talk about your love life, marriage or family issues?

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