“My wife lied about her age”

My wife though nice and tries to make me happy, seems to always do the wrong things at the right time

 

Hi Bukky,

Thanks for an opportunity to share my feelings with someone.

For some time now,I have been having a feeling of loneliness in spite of the fact that I've been married for thirteen years now and need your help.

We have an eleven year old son who's challenged but we have decided it should not come in the way of our relationship.

We've tried having more children but it hasn't worked out.

My wife though nice and tries to make me happy seems to always do the wrong things at the right time. She lied about her age during our courtship only to apologise after we got married.

She snores and for some time now we do not sleep in the same room. Whenever I try to communicate my worries to my wife, she sees it as I'm nagging.

I'm beginning to miss my ex who though married, complains of being fed up with her marriage.

I urgently need your help. I am 46 yrs old and my wife is about 9 months my senior. Many thx while I await your response.

Best Regards,

Kenneth Oyibotha.

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Hi Kenneth,

I appreciate you sharing your concerns with me.

It takes two people to make a marriage work. And although communication is key, it all depends on way you do it with your wife. Try to be more subtle when passing a message across. Hurtful words should be avoided when doing this.

Felix, age shouldn’t be a problem between you and your wife if you really love her as much as you say. Her snoring may be a health problem, you should find out what causes it and help her the best way possible.

No one has ever found happiness by walking away from their problems into another person’s arms, rather taking responsibility would solve your issues faster.

Secondly,  it's advisable to seek help from a Marriage Therapist.

Contact the therapist and explain your issues, make sure you are comfortable with talking about your marriage problems before bringing your wife in.

This so that the situation won't be awkward for your wife. She may be reluctant at first to go with you but you need to be honest about the current situation of your marriage. Make her understand that you both need help or else everything you built for 13 years would fall apart.

When you both agree to see the psychologist make sure your issues with her are trashed out properly so you can both be happy together again.

Take that bold step and watch the rest beautifully fall in place for you.

I wish you both best of luck in your marriage

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