Does she still love me or not?
Please I need your candid view on this issue am having in my relationship. For the past three years, my girlfriend has been behaving so funny.
She does not call or send me text messages as she used to during the first 5years of the relationship.
If I don't communicate her she would not except in rare cases. So I concluded in my mind that she no longer loves me.
Anytime I express my doubt for her love, however, she gets so annoyed and never wants to hear me make mention of it.
Most times when I feel like giving it up, her call would just come in as if she could read my thought from wherever she might be that I am stressed out by her lack of affection.
Funny enough, sometimes when I tell her I love her she would simply say thanks and to me I feel it's rather too casual, although we barely see each other due to distance.
So, please I really don't know what to make of this situation "if she still loves me or not."
Do you think she does or she is just playing catch up? Please I need your candid opinion on this. Thanks!
Here’s what I think about your relationship though – eight years is such a long long time to be together. Have you considered asking her to settle down with you?
Ok, this is not me pressuring you to do something you are not prepared for; I’m just saying if you are with someone for that long, it’s not wrong for them to start expecting something more concrete, a deeper level of commitment.
And as we both know, the ultimate level of romantic commitment is marriage.
I might be wrong, but I have a feeling this is what is playing on her mind.
Understandably, you might be unready for marriage for reasons best known to you but that should not stop you from reassuring your babe that she has your heart and that you got her.
See, everyone needs reassurance and validation every once in a while. And in this situation, I think it is highly needed so she knows she’s not wasting her time and that she’s not being with you for all this time in vain.
And ask yourself, do you want this woman forever? Eight years is enough to know the answer to this question.
If it’s a no, please let her go.
If it’s a yes, and I hope it is, then just reassure her that you’ve got her. And that in time, you both will be together for good.
Tell her she’s the mother of your unborn kids and all the wonderful things you want to do with her for the rest of your life.
And please get your act together fast. Put a ring on it as soon as you can.
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