"I'm tired of apologising when I've done no wrong, I want to leave this relationship"

Hello Bukky,

Please what do I do with my girlfriend who hardly apologises? I know they say a guy has to apologise whether he's right or wrong but I am tired of doing that as I believe everyone needs to take responsibility for their actions once in a while.

I mean, she wrongs me and when I'm angry she will not apologise. Sometimes, I expect her to reach out at least for the fact that she's the one who messed up, but she won't; and after maybe four or five days when I'm no longer angry, I will be the one to call her, apologise and make things work again.

Something like that happened again recently, but for the past seven weeks, I have refused to reach out. I vowed not to reach out if she didn't. Anyway, she reached out to me a few days ago saying she's sorry and that she wants us to work things out. Seriously, the peace of mind I've had for seven weeks feels so good that I am contemplating not reaching out to her.

Does it make sense to just let the relationship go, or should I take her back? I am really looking forward to your best response. This has been heavy on my mind for like three days now._______________________

Hi, Reader,

Seven weeks does feel like a long time to stay away from a partner, but given the history you explained, I think I understand your decision to stay away.

Like you said, if she didn't reach out, you wouldn't, too.

I think that might be a pointer to the fact that you are indeed tired of the relationship. Maybe it'll be better to actually let her go.

Seven weeks away from her should have made you miss her badly, but all I hear you talk about is the 'peace of mind' you enjoyed in the time you both spent not talking to each other. I think you deserve to do stuff that gives you peace of mind and happiness.

From your actions, your mind seems made anyway, so just let her go. Doing otherwise will only complicate things and bring you back to this same position in a short while._______________________

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