Quite a number of people believe that people whose marriages have broken down should not be teaching others how to make a marriage work.
The justification for this view lies in this question: why should they be giving marriage advice when they could not even keep theirs?
In a poll conducted here in July, we tried to know what Pulse readers thought about this.
When asked if they would take marriage advice from a divorced person, 57.1% voted “hell no!”
Only 42.9% said they wouldn’t mind hearing any advice a divorced person might have.
Here is the thing about relationships and marriage advice: they can come from anyone, and their usefulness is not dependent on the giver, but on the user.
As it is written in that original article, “anyone can give good or bad advice, whether married or unmarried, young or old, experienced or inexperienced – although some have a higher tendency of giving good advice over some others.
“Also, relationship and marriage advice [and all other forms of advice] are actually meant to be taken or rejected.
“So it does not matter who gives the advice, if you think it’ll work for the kind of relationship/marriage you have with your partner, then take it and use it, even if the giver is divorced.”
That’s a better way to go about this whole thing.