As a little girl, every woman held the dream of having the prefect marriage with someone they love, and having it all, leading to their happily ever after.
5 ways to create your own happily ever after
The thing is, half the time, we refuse to believe that there are exceptions to every rule and we cannot have it all.
The key to facing this reality head on is to create your own happily ever after, seeing as this state in a relationship or marriage, isn't tailor made.
Read on for 5 tips to creating your own happily ever after, against all odds.
1) Learn as much as possible about your partner before starting up a relationship.
Its scary to look back and realise that majority of the ladies in relationships may not even know their partner's surname.
Get to know as much as you can, while trying to take note of the things he isn't telling you. This way, your relationship doesn't end before it starts.
2) Develop a friendship because when love is threatened, friendship always comes in handy.
There are marriages with years under their belt that has lost most of its salt but continues to work like a perfectly oiled machine. This is exactly what friendship in a relationship does.
In those moments when you are sure you hate yourselves and begin to ask yourselves why you got married in the first place, the friendship keeps you going when all else fails.
3) Delay intimacy for as long as possible.
Most couples rely on sex to patch up their relationships and yes, makeup sex always feels so good.
Truthfully, using sex to solve problems in a relationship is the same as using a gum to seal a hole in your ceiling. It would wear off eventually, leaving an even bigger hole thats harder to fix.
Basically, 'she who holds the cookie jar, has the power'.
4) Give as hard as you get and be willing to make compromises.
Relationships are all about compromises and making sacrifices, and this is far easier said than done. A successful relationship is also about the mind set of the people involved and how hard they want things to work.
If you realise you are on the same page as your partner, give as hard as you get if not more.
5) Learn from every experience, take the good and let go of the bad and be determined to fix things.
All these would ultimately lead you on the right path to your happily ever after.
Relationships are never perfect, but what makes them last is your determination to fix what's broken and not throw it out.
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