There is nothing wrong with getting married at 22; the only issue is when marriage stops her from pursuing her life’s goals.
A man who gives her such an ultimatum is not right for her; their goals do not align. If anything, they are poorly suited for each other and need to part ways as soon as possible.
A person who loves us wants us to grow, to be better and to achieve our highest potential.
His insecurities may be a reason why he wouldn't want her to leave him and 'level up' or it could be that he cannot handle a long distance relationship but he could just break up the relationship without giving an ultimatum.
But will the decision to leave Nigeria and the man she loves hurt? Yes, and the nagging fear that she would never find someone else like him will trail behind her like the luggage she would carry to the airport – only heavier.
But our heart lies to us in the throes of heartbreak, healing happens, and we meet someone better, someone more aligned with our life goals.