Relationship Talk With Bukky: How do I get other women off my man?

Dear Bukky,

Please, that closeness is getting to my nerves, they chat every time. The lady always call every here and then. Recently my man had to be deleting his chats with the lady. I want that to stop please.

How do I get the lady off my man, and how do I make my man lose interest and forget her totally?

I got a romantic message sent by my man to the lady. I'm getting pissed off. How do I get my man to stop all this please?

If I can get my man stop all this, I believe he will then tell the lady to desist from texting him. Please help.___________

Dear reader

I want you to know this first: your man is the one who is responsible to you, not the other woman. So it is he who should bear the brunt of your anger most.

If you must give the other woman any of this energy, I think it should be as an afterthought rather than a major attack.

Demand your man to be faithful to you. I use the word demand here because it is the basic requirement everyone should be getting from their partner. Talk to him as you have with me. Express yourself as clearly as you have with me and let him know your fears worries and expectations.

As this article here explains, it is not so cool to communicate with outsiders about your relationship issues and not do same with your partner first. You need to let him know that chatting up that other woman, or accepting and encouraging her romantic moves is not an option. He has to learn to respect you and act right.

After you do that, you can now add the other option of speaking to the other woman about leaving your man. Make it a conversation rather than an attack. She probably does not know that she is dealing with a married man.

Like I said earlier, it is your man who should bear more duty of keeping your relationship together and not the other woman. And it is he you should concentrate on more.____________Do you want to talk about your love life, marriage or family issues?

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