How technology addiction makes you and your children miserable

oge okonkwo

July 31, 2015 4:19 PM

The idea of being alone for most adults is surfing the Internet with their devices

Unhappy couple

In an article by counselor/therapist, Jessica M. Miller for YourTango, most families don't see it but in this 21st century technology is slowly creating a rift between families.

The idea of being alone for most adults is surfing the Internet with their devices, and for those who have families, this hardly goes down well with their spouses and children.

Reconnecting with family after a hectic day of work helps reduce technology addiction.

Miller writes:

In today’s world, you give so much of yourself to others that, by the time you get home, you just want to crash and numb yourself on the Internet. But have you ever wondered what your children see when you choose an electronic device over play time?

There’s a new advertisement campaign that depicts the brutal truth that most parents don’t want to face. The creators of the ad placed a giant phone between the parent and child to represent the barrier that the child experiences.

My initial reaction when I saw this was, "Oh, this breaks my heart!" As parents, we want our children (and partners) to feel like we’re always there for them. We would never intentionally put a barrier between our families and ourselves. Obviously, this ad holds a lot of truth, and, as parents, we need to pause and look at the relationship that we have with our phones.

Do You Have An Addiction To Your Phone?

It’s not the phone (or the content) that we're addicted to — it’s the distraction. Since we accepted this non-stop pace in our society, we feel awkward when we slow down. We FREAK out when we have time to chill. We have no clue how to relax anymore, and when we venture into the unfamiliar state of slowing down, we feel so uncomfortable that we reach for whatever's closest to help us escape.

I recently watched this Ted talk by Johann Hari and he mentioned how we're hyper-sensitive to addiction in our world today because we're filling our connection tank with the wrong fuel. Whether it's addiction to your iPhone, food or porn, we're more susceptible to getting hooked because we're lonely.

We've tried to reinvent what intimacy looks like, but our souls aren’t having it. We believe that we're overly connected with Snapchat, Instagram and texting, but we're literally the loneliest we've ever been.

How Can We Stop Being So Susceptible To Distraction Addictions?

It takes 21 days for your brain to wire in a new habit. That means that you must have patience and persistence.

You'll slide back into old patterns (we all do). When this happens, simply ask your loved ones to remind you of this ad. Then all you need to do is refocus and reconnect with what really matters with your loved ones standing before you.

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