The way we feel cared for varies. Sometimes you may show someone you care for them in ways that are completely opposite from the way they feel appreciated.
What do people want when they're dating? According to a study from Evolution Psychology, most men and women want people who complement or understand them. This doesn't mean someone who is exactly like them or similar, but rather someone who fills the holes they have in their lifestyle, the study found.
Here are 12 ways to show someone you care about someone, and keep those relationships going.
- Bring them home their favourite drink: It's a Saturday morning. Sun shining, birds chirping and the day is just getting started. So why not show the person you love your affection by bringing them home a nice soda or fruit juice. It kicks off his or her day in the right mood. Remember to keep track of what juice you're giving them, though, since most people pay a lot of attention to the nutrition labels on their drinks, according to a survey.
- Buy them a book: A good number of adults enjoy reading books as a way of relaxing. And research has found that reading a book — especially a paper book, hands-on book — can improve people's familiarity with the story and make them comprehend more, according to Mic. So it might be the right move to buy your loved one a book.
- Send the extra text: Texting your crush can be a painful experience, but there are some good ways to go about it. The Huffington Post offered some tips on how to get in touch with your desired one with a text, suggesting that photos are a nice way to branch out, as are jokes and sending out emojis.
- Pay for the date: A recent survey found that most women still expect the men to pay for the first date. So whether you're a guy looking to meet the expectations of your country, or a female looking to buck the trend, paying for a date is surely a way to hint to your loved one that you care about him or her.
- Be honest: According to Psychology Today, honesty is beneficial for many couples. Though it does open the emotional floodgates and leave people vulnerable to being hurt by another, the true way to reach emotional intimacy with a partner is through trust, Psychology Today. Sure, people tell little white lies to their partners, but talking through situations and problems can help build the relationship.
- Talk to them often: Communication is also a big factor in maintaining a relationship. It may not be the most important thing in a relationship, but couples find communication key for staying happy with their significant other and keeping things stable, according to Time magazine.
- Participate in an activity they want: Maybe he wants to go to the local sports event, or she's interested in shopping downtown for the day. Regardless of what the activity is, compromising on activities and events is key. According to Psychology Today, couples tend to compromise as a way of smoothing over issues and keep the relationship going. So instead of arguing what to do on a Friday night, it might be beneficial to compromise on an activity and do what your loved one wants.
- Talk to their parents: Yes, couples eventually have to speak to their loved one's parents. It may be to tell them that you're dating them or that you're planning to get married. Regardless, starting up a relationship with the in-laws can show initiative and a willing to build the coupledom to a new level.
- Surprise them: A surprise may be a great way to show someone you're thinking of them. In fact, a study recently found that the brain likes getting surprised, since the pleasure parts of the brain are turned on when surprise comes our way. So surprise your loved one with an extravagant birthday party or breakfast in bed.
- Schedule a date night: A study from The National Marriage Project found that date night is vital for couples in staying together. In fact, having that date night can help marriages succeed and keep them from failing — mostly because it shows commitment, a sense of novelty and communication, the study found.
- Visit them at work: It may knock down some productivity, according to Rookie Moms, and it may not be proper etiquette, but visiting someone at work is a nice way to surprise your loved one and let him or her know you're thinking of them. Plus, when the times get tough and stressful at the job, best friends and loved ones are the best to be around people to have around, The Huffington Post reported.
- Attend a religious service: According to a study, many people want religion to influence their lives more than it currently is. So why not help that cause and attend a church or religious gathering? After all, attending a religious service someone can be beneficial for you discovering your own faith and letting your loved one know that you’re willing to try new things in your relationship.