Relationship Talk With Bukky: How do I stop cheating on my wife after 5 years?

Dear Bukky,

I am married and have a girlfriend of 5 years.

Last week, she told me that she has found a widower who wants to settle down with her but at the same time she doesn't want to lose me.

Should I continue with the relationship or not?____________

Dear reader,

Did you say you have been married but have another relationship spanning 5 years?! Woah! That’s such a long time to be unfaithful to one’s wife!

I really do not know how you have managed to keep that up. Neither do I know how you have somehow kept this secret from your partner for such a long time. What I just need to tell you is this: if you combine the energy and effort you expend on the other woman and focus everything on making your woman happy, your marriage will become better for it.

Also you will no longer have to look over your shoulders. I strongly believe that your finances will also be better for it. And most importantly, you won’t be disrupting another person’s happiness.

Here is what that means: your side chick is about to get a husband. Imagine holding on to her till the new man finds out that she has been cheating on him! That means she gets to lose her relationship and you probably get to lose yours, too!

If you both care about each other really, now is the time to let go and focus on your respective partners.

That your side relationship has gone on long enough. Let that woman go, regardless of what her wishes are.____________

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