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Relationship Talk With Bukky My girlfriend wants to leave me because I'm broke

Things started going wrong for me and she's been threatening to leave since then.

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Unhappy man.


I and my woman met in 2013 and we’ve been talking about getting married in 2018.

We started living together in 2014 and somewhere along the line, because she is the first born of her family, her three siblings and her mother came to be with us.

All of a sudden things started going wrong. My wife now owes a debt of almost 200K and for that I accept some blame. I’ve been trying to get another job so as to ease the payment of the debt though.

The problem now is that she has begun to threaten me with abandonment.

She says she’s going to leave and I know if not for her mum who likes me and speaks on my behalf, she would have gone.

Here’s a woman that I spent on when I had and never kept any financial secret from.

Now I don’t even know what she’s planning to do next but I do not want to lose her because I love her to the core.

I feel her mum won’t be able to hold her back for longer. Please how can I arrest this situation on ground?

Dear reader,

I really do sympathize with you and I hope you get past this.

In the meantime though, are you sure your woman is acting up because of your financial situation or for some other reason?

The delay in marriage, perhaps? Or for some character flaw you honestly need to change?

In any case, if there’s nothing of that sort and she’s being this way because of the downturn in your fortunes, I think letting her go won’t be such a bad idea.

I know… believe me, I know how that must sound but here’s a truth for you: if someone is switching up  because the good times seem to have come to an end, I think letting such person is a bullet dodged and not a loss incurred.

Forget whatever past you guys have -  her lack of loyalty at this stage shows that all she did in the past was because things were rosy.

I’m sure you know how special it is to have someone stand by you not only when things were dipped in milk and honey but also during dry spells.

If her threats are inspired by this rough patch you’re going through, then I see no reason why you should force yourself to hold on.
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