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Relationship Talk My girlfriend always nags, how do I make her stop?

My girlfriend nags a lot and I think I might be losing interest in this relationship already.

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She nags too much. I think I am getting tired.


Dear Bukky,

I need your assistance. My girlfriend nags a lot and it is threatening to make me lose total interest in her.

It's already so bad that I hardly want to be with her because most times she comes over to my place or when I go to hers, it always ends badly.

I often feel like I can never do right by her because there is always something she complains about.

What makes all this so difficult is that I love her so much.

By God, I love that girl with all of my heart, and she says she loves me too.

I have been trying all I can to get her and to understand what pleases her and what does not but I just can’t seem to.

The way she complains all the time makes me feel terrible all the time.

Like, she freaks out with complaints at the things I did not do right, things I overdid, things I did not do at all… and it just feels like I am walking a tight rope all the time.

I can’t even be sure of what will please her at any particular time and I have tried.

We have been together for three months. Isn’t that enough time for all of this to have stopped?

I mean, is there a possibility that she is intentionally doing all of this to test me or what?

I actually do not understand and I need all the help I can get so I do not run crazy or take a wrong step


I still believe that all you need is patience. A lot of it.

Whatever the case is, time and a lot of extra effort will make everything right.

If you truly love her and she loves you, too, all these will soon be in the past.

I’d like to think these are just teething problems, forget about the possibility of her trying to test you and all.

Like I said before, no matter how difficult she looks now, with time and enough patience, you will get to understand her and when you do, I think all that nagging will stop.

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Do you have burning questions that you would love to get answers to?

Just send a mail to relationships@pulse.ng and I'll provide the most honest answers to them anonymously.

So, why not send that mail today and let's talk about it?

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