Many men see themselves as sex experts but many times, such men can’t even properly satisfy their wives/girlfriends as the women would like.

And really, what's the point of the act when your partner is not feeling what you're doing in a good way?

The inability of these men to perform as they should is usually to misinformation and wrong impressions they have on how to best to go about the act. Having said that, if you

1. Thinking sex is all about strength

You need to realise that they are not hammers, and that the female sexual organ is not just a hole. The act of sex also requires more finesse than most men seem to be aware of.

Women may want it a bit rough sometimes, but if all your thoughts whenever you think about sex is rough pounding, you need to have a rethink.

Unhappy woman [Credit: Blackcity girl]
Unhappy woman [Credit: Blackcity girl]

2. Going on and on

More men need to realise that pleasing a woman is not about going on ceaselessly with the sex.

Going on for 50 minutes or one hour does not prove that you are ‘The Man’ and when prolonged unduly, sex could really get exhausting.

Sex is meant to be enjoyable, and to achieve that, partners do not need to go on a marathon.

So the idea that you need to go on and on to satisfy the woman needs to be stopped.

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3. Neglecting other body parts

When men choose to make sex all about the vagina, there’s only an amount of pleasure they can give their wives or girlfriends.

The whole process of sex is meant to be a thing of totality and wholeness. Your wife’s most sensitive part needs to be discovered and paid attention to, but not at the expense of other body parts.

Spread your kisses, touches and caresses and see how pleasing it’ll be for your bae.

You need to let your woman enjoy the process, rather than rushing through it. [Credit: Shutterstock]
You need to let your woman enjoy the process, rather than rushing through it. [Credit: Shutterstock]

4. Too many positions in quick succession

When you keep flipping your [partner] in all directions, it becomes distracting.

Switching positions during sex has to be a mutual thing, and even if men love to take charge, it’d be great to let a partner enjoy and get relaxed with one position before switching over to yet another one.

Big mistake.

Does your woman agree to your claim of sexual prowess. [Credit: Black Enterprise]
Does your woman agree to your claim of sexual prowess. [Credit: Black Enterprise]

5. Ending immediately after your orgasm

Thinking that sex ends immediately after you cum is like the biggest mistake on this list, because it is the height of selfishness.

Assuming that your orgasm is the point of the whole process is very annoying and every woman would find it uncaring and unfair. So even after you get an orgasm, try to see if your woman is satisfied yet, and if she isn't, you need to help her achieve that satisfaction.

That's the way to go.