It’s a common thing to hear women say; ‘this guy is childish’, or ‘that guy is irresponsible’ just because the said guy is yet to make up his mind about what he really wants.
People tell you, your friends can’t shut up about how good you look together, yet, bros has still not said anything and you’re starting to lose your cool.
Many ladies fail to realise, when making these assertions, that a guy who is looking to ‘commit’ in the real sense of the word will proceed cautiously because he wants to be sure and will only make that big move after he feels good enough to do so.
So, what are the three things guys always consider before deciding to commit?
1. Ghost of girlfriends past
Men are naturally structured to absorb and hide pain better than women, and are therefore less likely to go do a thread on Twitter, detailing their hurt, after suffering a heartbreak.
Do not be fooled, though. Women break guys’ heart all the time, too, and the fact that we don’t hear much of it does not mean it does not happen.
If a guy has had his heart broken one too many times, you don't expect him to be keen on having a repeat of those experiences.
2. Unwilling to let go of their freedom
As you might have guessed already, a lot of guys worry that a committed relationship will mean the end of their freedom.
I know many ladies reading this will be fuming, or shaking their heads in disgust, saying something about how men are just irresponsible and all.
That might be true, but what is also true is that everyone deserves to live life at their pace.
Give him a reasonable amount of time get used to the fact that his time is not just his anymore, and that he will be sharing a lot of himself with someone else now.
When he’s cool with that, he’ll be ready to commit. Till then, keep calm.
3. He might be worried about you
You are so concerned about getting him to commit to you that you never even thought you might be the problem.
Look inwards; what if there’s something about you that’s not right, something putting him off?
You know, you might not want to admit it to yourself, but the reason why he’s not committing yet could just be… you.