Wedding planning is usually left to the bride and her friends to handle, while the groom chills with his pals till the big day. This shouldn't be so, because planning a wedding alone without your partner's contribution is tiring and absolutely draining.
Wedding planning is usually left to the bride and her friends to handle, while the groom chills with his pals till the big day.
This shouldn't be so, because planning a wedding alone without your partner's contribution is tiring and absolutely draining.
So if you're already planning your big day and you want your man to partake fully, here are some things you should do:
Be creative: Go through inspiration and ideas together and ask for his opinion. Sit down and discuss the theme and vision for your wedding and create a sort of game plan and inspiration board. By doing this, it is clear before you start planning what is needed, wanted and budgeted for your wedding vision. Be supportive and keep an open mind to his ideas. Even if they are not what you envisioned, try not to constantly shoot them down, so he doesn't get discouraged.
Share responsibilities: That you want him to enjoy planning the wedding does not mean you should be stuck with all the essential, sometimes difficult tasks. He is your partner after all, so ask for his help and support. He might want to help, but just doesn't know where to start or what to do, so create a designated task list and schedule. Grooms must step up to the plate and participate if they ultimately want a wedding day to reflect their style. For this reason, grooms are much more involved because they also want a wedding day to remember.
Plan together: In the past, grooms were led to believe that wedding planning was left to the bride alone. However, the modern bride now works a full-time job just as the groom does. Ultimately the wedding is not just a celebration for the bride, but for both the bride and groom. Try making the planning a team effort by bringing him along to appointments and making major decisions together.
Set aside 'wedding time': Set aside a day or night for 'wedding time' instead of bombarding him all at once or at random times. You can also get the wedding party together for a monthly wedding session and make a fun night of it (it will also give him a chance to get together with the boys). When grooms are largely involved in the planning process, they are usually pleased with the outcome of their wedding. Dividing up vendor responsibilities, delegating tasks and simply keeping an open line of communication together will really entice him to be involved in his wedding day.
Play to his interests: One of the best ways to get him involved is to play to his interests, whether he's creative, handy or technical. Split tasks based on things you are both interested in or have a specific set of skills in. Assign him tasks he'll enjoy, like picking the music, creating signature cocktails, building a photo booth or ordering transportation. You could even have him plan the honeymoon and surprise you with the details. Having him write his own vows is also an essential, and always romantic, task.