Dear Bukky,

I am a very single divorced mom to an eight-year-old.

My problem is, I turn 40 in two years and I really desire to give my kid a sibling. I am an only child of my parents and do not wish to let my son be all by himself in this world but I don't have a man.

I find it hard to go out, I moved cities hoping I will start a new lease on that aspect of life, yet I am still at point one.

I am solely responsible for my kid. I can't add another such responsibility to my budget.  How do I go about getting the appropriate man?

I desire a capable companion to share the experience with. I don't want to be lonely and certainly need the company of an adult male probably a civil partner.

I am a working woman, but are my desires for a partner unrealistic?

Thank you.__________

Dear reader,

No. Your desires are not unrealistic. You are not unworthy of what you seek and I reiterate that if anyone deserves this thing you desire, then it is you.

I think now that you know what you want, your plan should be knowing the best way to go about getting it.

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How do you get the kind of man you say you want? I think you should go out more, be the best version of yourself, be on point with your dressing, be more invested in things that matter to you, and just live your life to the fullest.

If you are concentrated on these things, your chances of going out and being at the right place at the right time are increased and the kind of man will be attracted to you.

In a nutshell, I don’t think taking any drastic step would be wise as it may make you look desperate and put you in a situation to be exploited. I think that just living your best life and staying positive and open is the best way to attract the right kind of man you want.

Again, let me assure you that your needs in a man are not unrealistic and there is love out there waiting to locate  you.__________Do you want to talk about your love life, marriage or family issues?

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