How much disrespect do I have to endure from the woman I love?

Dear Bukky,

Please I seriously need advice from you I'm in a relationship right now that makes me so unhappy and thinking about breaking up.

I really love the girl though but she keeps pissing me off from time to time these days and she wasn't like that before, though I don't have any other girl I can date for now if I breakup but I think being single will keep me emotionally healthy for a while until I can sort myself out with someone else again.

What happens is that she's just being rude these days, she shouts at me on phone and i can't even get a five minute conversation with her before she starts shouting on me on the phone, if I complain to her that I don't like her attitude sometimes she'll be nice for a while and soon again she'll start, it's like she just doesn't care anymore, do you think I should tolerate this her level of rudeness?

How rude can girls be to their spouse in a relationship and would still be considered normal?___________

Dear reader,

It is never OK to be rude to one’s partner. Never is it OK to be disrespectful to one’s partner to the point where they feel like you are feeling now.

It is OK, even understandable, to be angry sometimes and to express that anger. Because we are humans, that can’t be ruled out from our relationships no matter how much we love our partners. However, it is very important to project those dissatisfaction in constructive manners as opposed to constantly making them feel the way you say your babe is making you feel.

I think you should stop letting her disrespect you. Loving someone should never strip you of your dignity and self-respect. So, yes, if your babe is doing all those things listed in your email, I think it’s fine to let her go.

Like I always say, anything that takes away your peace of mind, stresses you, makes you feel bad about yourself or less of a person than you are, you really need to let that thing go.

Before you let go of this woman though, try to have one more conversation with her. Tell her how much you love her. Then express to her how that love won’t count for much if she keeps treating you with disdain as she does. Love should never make you settle for such things.

There are many others out there who would love you genuinely and treat you like a king that [I hope] you are.

If it comes to it, please go single till one of such queens comes into your world.

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