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Relationship Talk "She's way out of my league; how do I get her?"

I'm just so attracted to her but I fear she'll laugh at me and it actually breaks my heart.

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Hi, Bukky

I just need advise on how to possibly get a girl who, I think is out of my league. Way out of my league as a matter of fact.

She has a car, I don't. I live with my parents, she stays in her own apartment, I have seen her friends a couple of times and they are all big girls and sincerely, I don't think I can match her in terms of finances.

However, I really, really like her. I'm just so totally attracted to her but I fear she'll just laugh at me and it actually breaks my heart.

My friend keeps telling me that I won't know if I don't try but merely looking at her and some of her social media pictures just puts me off and gives me the impression that I stand no chance.

What would you advise me to do? Or better still, how do you think I can approach her and not look like a fool?

Dear reader,

Firstly, I think you can agree with me that most women like confident men, and secondly, you can't limit yourself to not even trying.

Of course, the supposed class gap between you might be a factor that plays against you, but you really won't know until you try.

You never can tell what impresses her and what does not. Not every woman cares about status, money and appearances.

You might be lucky she is one who cares about essence instead of looks and possessions, and there is only one way to know - ask.

Now, about asking, I need to mention that while she might be open to the idea of dating someone like you, you have to ensure that other factors do not work against you - that might be asking too much from her.

How's your grooming? Your social skills? How about the timing of your approach? These are the things you have to work on and play your cards right to ensure that you actually stand a chance with her.

Again, you'll never know till you try. So, the ball is in your court now.

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Yours truly!

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