A very troubled reader,

Even her husband, Daniel, is standing with his mother and has also contributed to making life hell for her. But other readers have advised her to wait on God for her own children.

Read her story here:

"My name is Maria. I am a 38-year-old woman and have been married for 18 years without a child and this is really causing serious heartaches for me.

My husband's family, especially his mother and sisters have made my life so miserable that at times, I contemplate committing suicide.

My husband, Daniel, has not helped matters as he has stopped defending me and has also given me an ultimatum to give him a child or he would send me packing from his house, a house I contributed to building.

I got married to Dan when I was just 20 and we had planned to have four children in quick succession so as to have ample time to take care of them.

But after two years and the babies refused to come, I began to worry but Daniel was always telling me not to worry as he was sure nothing was wrong with us.

But after five years, I became frenetic and went to many hospitals, fertility clinics, and churches to seek for a solution. In all of these, the tests showed there was nothing wrong with me and that I should just be patient and not stress myself with worries.

Then came my in-laws who started asking questions. My mother-in-law, in particular, was not making life easy for me as she used every opportunity to insinuate that she is yet to taste the joy of being a grandmother, even though three of her married daughters have children of their own.

But for her, she will be fulfilled when her son gave her grandchildren. Now, they are all blaming me for not bearing a child for their son as if I am God who gives children.

My husband's sisters, on the other hand, have been telling him to get another wife and the eldest has even gone as far as matchmaking him with some other women.

I am really at my wit's end and if I do not find a solution fast, I may just end up killing myself.


The teaser for the day was:

Who is to be blamed when a couple does not have children?

How Nigeria voted:

The husband is to be blamed - 38%

The wife is to be blamed - 8%

They have to be patient and wait for God's time - 60%

How would you vote here?