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Why is there silence when men are victims?

When men are victims of domestic violence and cheating, there isn't much outrage.

When the tables are turned, it brings a whole lot of confusion to the minds of many people. People don't know how to generally react or focus their outrage on.

The death of Bilyamin Muhammed Bello is a classic case of the near social media silence that happens when a man is the victim of social media violence.

Bello was allegedly stabbed to death by his wife. There has been noise about this on social media but it is low compared to cases of domestic violence when a woman is a victim.

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Society doesn't know how to react when a man is at the receiving end of a woman's physical assaults. Even for woke liberals, it takes them a second or two to adjust to the new narrative.

What this means is that for all the awareness on domestic violence over the years, it has been largely one-sided. Most online campaigns design their messages to portray the women as victims and not the aggressor. This imbalance highlights the defect in the gender equality push.

Men can be victims too but even the woke tend to forget that the 'masculinity is fragile' narrative applies to domestic violence. There are a lot of men that are victims of domestic violence but they cannot speak up because of societal expectations and standards.

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A man is not expected to cry and rant about what he is going through. He is meant to put his chin up and take it like a man. Many of us are guilty of thinking this way including the woke gang.

That's why it shouldn't be surprising if men and women who push for gender equality take some time to tweet about men who are victims. The same energy is lacking because certain ideas about men have been embedded in their minds.

You can also apply this to cheating. Popular US singer Jennifer Hudson recently made headlines for allegedly cheating on her longtime partner with Mali Music.

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The outrage on social media was muted most likely because she was a woman. If roles were reversed, hell would have been raised. Men should be dragged for cheating, no two ways about it. This should also apply to women too. Popular female singers like Hudson and Jhene Aiko have gotten soft treatment from the mob on Twitter for allegedly being unfaithful.

If society desires to make men and women truly equal, then what is bad for men should also be bad for women. If people do not speak up about men being victims too, gender equality will be nothing but a cool phrase and not an ideal.

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