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Morning Teaser 'I am pregnant but not for my husband'

What do you think a married woman who is pregnant for her boyfriend after years of barrenness should do?

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"Dear Pulse,

My name is Esther and I have been married for six years without a fruit of the womb. My husband, Stanley, and I have done everything for me to get pregnant all to no avail. We have tried all forms of medicines, fertility drugs, prayer houses and local herbs with no result.

Being an only son, his family has been on our necks to give them grand children but all efforts have been in vain. It got so much that his mother especially, started insinuating that I could be the one with the problem but I know I am not the problem because before I met Stanley, I had got pregnant about two times for my ex-boyfriend, so it had nothing to do with me.

On the other hand, several tests we have carried out showed that there is nothing wrong with us with the doctors advising that we should be patient, that we would have our own child with time. But my mother-in-law has not been in anyway patient as she has made plans to get my husband a new wife from their village.

My husband too seems to be in line with the plans from his family and has alienated me as if I am the one who has the problem of giving birth.

This pain was what drove me into the hands of Andy, who was introduced to me by a close friend, Nkechi. At the initial stage, Andy was just a friend whom I confided in but as the pains I have been living with escalated, I found myself more and more dependent on him.

And before I knew what happened, we began sleeping together. For me, it was just an avenue to relieve myself of the pains I was going through but it went on for so long that I actually looked forward to sleeping with Andy, though I did not attach anything to it.

Then I found out that I had missed my period for two months. I went for a test and it turned out that I was pregnant. I knew immediately that Andy was the father of the baby but I can't possibly tell him. At the moment, I dread letting Stanley know I am pregnant for fear he could suspect me because in the past few months, we have not made love regularly.

What do you think I should do in this dilemma?


Dear readers, on Morning Teaser today, we ask: what would you advice Esther to do in this situation she has found herself?

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