Why don't I have feelings for my girlfriend?

Dear Bukky,

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost two years now and to be honest she is really a hard working girl and the kind of girl every man will want to marry.

She loves me with everything she has, but the problem I have is that I don't seem to love her much. I just see her more as a friend than my girlfriend

She was in a relationship when I first met her, she told me we could only be friends and I accepted back then because I realized that she really loved her man. However, the guy died somewhere along the line.

I was there for her all through that period. I helped her get over the whole pain of losing her man. We started dating after almost a year.

Though when we started I told her not to love me much, that we should take things easy, because I wasn't too sure of I really loved her.

So I won't hurt her but later she told me and I noticed she has really loved me more than she could imagine.

She has really been there for me during my challenging moments (both financially), but can't say this is her fault and I can't explain why the love is not that much there either.

I have tried so much to love her, but to no avail, I still see her as a mere friend. She really deserves more... What do I do?____________

Dear reader,

I think you need to own up to some responsibility of leading that woman on when you knew you had no feelings to back up the actions you were portraying to her.

I understand that sometimes, it’s possible to not have that spark with some people no matter how hard you try. And two years is such a long time to have tried. If it’s not working, I think it’s time to walk away.

I also understand that you might be scared of breaking her heart and appearing as an ingrate but frankly, it is for the best that you quit faking this relationship. It is for the best of both of you if you quit living in the illusion of happiness.____________Do you want to talk about your love life, marriage or family issues?

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