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Pulse Nigeria Poll Readers say Jamal should encourage Halima to see a doctor

53% of Pulse Nigeria Poll voters are of the opinion that Jamal should encourage Halima to see a doctor over her sexual problems.

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A frustrated man needs advice

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Before they got married, Jamal and Halima enjoyed an explosive married life and in the first few years of their marriage, they could not take their hands off one another.

But after just one child, Halima has suddenly become frigid, often turning down Jama’s sexual advances, making him frustrated and contemplating getting himself a mistress.

Read his story here:

"My name is Jamal, a 37-year-old man. I have been married for six years now but in the past two years, my wife, Halima, has been frustrating me sexually.

Before I got married to Halima and in the first two years of marriage, she was a bomb in bed and was even the one who initiated sex most of the time.

In those days, there were times I even had to beg off because her sexual appetite was very high and every time we had sex, it was as if we had never had sex before.

But the problem started after she gave birth to our daughter and since then, sex with her has become bland, non-existent and very frustrating.

I remember the first time Halima turned me down when I wanted to have sex almost three months after she put to bed and she told me that she was not ready for sex just yet.

At that time, I put the rejection down to the experience she had at child birth and decided to give her some time to recover fully and tune herself back into the rhythm but how wrong I was because six months after, my wife still refused to have sex, giving one excuse or the other.

Even when she agreed after eight months, Halima was so detached and uninterested that it seemed I was making love to a log of wood.

When I complained, she told me she was just coming back to terms with sex and I should give her time to come back to her normal self but that has not been the case as every other day, she is becoming alienated.

In the past two years, I can count the number of times I have slept with my wife on the fingers of one hand and at such times, it seems as if I am punishing myself.

I have had long dialogues with her and encouraged her to see a sex therapist but they have all been in vain as she is not even willing to work on herself.

The most annoying thing is that she told me two weeks ago, that I should patronize prostitutes or get a girlfriend if I cannot live without sex.

I am frustrated and friends I have confided in have advised I get a woman who would be willing to satisfy my sexual urges but I had vowed never to cheat on my wife.

But it seems that vow would soon be a thing of the past if the situation is not about to change.


The teaser for the day was:

What would you do if your spouse suddenly refuses to have sex?

How Nigeria voted:

I will encourage him/her to see a doctor - 53%

I will manage the situation instead of cheating - 12%

I will get someone to satisfy me - 22%

I will divorce him/her - 13%

What would your vote be here?

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