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Pulse Nigeria Poll Readers say Evelyn should hold a serious talk with Victor

74% of Pulse Nigeria Poll voters say Evelyn should hold a heart-to-heart talk with Victor on their sexual problems instead of calling off their wedding.

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This sad woman needs advice

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Evelyn is madly in love with Victor and they have plans to get married before the end of the year but one thing has been on her mind all the time she has dated Victor.

Despite that he has everything every woman would kill for, Victor has insisted on no sex before marriage and this has put Evelyn on edge.

She does not want to go into a marriage where her husband would not be able to satisfy her in bed or even not able to get her pregnant.

Read her story here:

"My name is Evelyn, a 26-year-old lady working in Lagos State. I have been in a relationship with Victor for over eight months now and we are planning to get married before the end of this year.

We have done our introduction and everything is set for the marriage while we are just waiting for the date that has been agreed to by both families.

Victor is the kind of man any woman would want to live with for the rest of her life. Apart from having a very good and secure job, Victor is very handsome, tall, hunky and very generous.

Victor loves me so much and I am mad about him but I have a morbid fear of getting married to him due to his stance of not having sex before marriage. It is not as if Victor is one strong born again Christian or a firm believer in the Bible but right from the day we met, he had told me he was not crazy about sex.

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Initially, I thought he just said what most men say to get a man and would not wait to have her in their beds. But my man has kept to his word and this scares me.

I am not saying that I am a sex freak or a nymphomaniac but I have heard stories where women get married without having sex only to find out that the husband is either weak in bed or impotent.

A friend also told me how her sister's husband turned out to be gay and just wanted to get married to please his family.

I am a young woman and like most women, sex means much to me and I don't think I can cope with a man who cannot satisfy me in bed especially my husband.

I have tried every means to seduce Victor but whenever he senses that I am going too far, he will put a stop to anything I do to him. One thing I have noticed conspicuously is that no matter how much I arouse him, Victor hardly gets an erection and whenever he does, he would quickly switch his mind off sex.

I walk about the house naked anytime I go to spend some time with him; I sleep naked and even go into the bathroom naked whenever he is taking his bath but he has refused to be moved.

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I have a lovely body with the right curves and I remember my past boyfriends could not wait to have sex with me but with Victor, the reverse is the case.

Please, I need your advice because I would not want a situation where I would get married and start cheating on my husband.


The teaser for the day was:

What would you advise Evelyn to do?

How Nigeria voted:

Evelyn should be happy that Victor is not crazy about sex - 19%

Evelyn should just bear with the situation - 5%

Evelyn should call off the wedding - 3%

Evelyn should have a heart to heart talk with Victor on the issue - 74%

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