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Pulse Nigeria Poll Readers will stop family members of a spouse who rejects their people from coming to their house

65% of Pulse Nigeria Poll voters say if their wives stop members of their families coming to visit, they would also bar her family members from visiting.

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A sad black man


Justin has been married for five years but his wife, Idara, hates his family members, looking down on them and fighting them physically as well as insulting his parents.

Idara has added another dimension to the whole issue by stopping members of his family from visiting him while her family members are always welcome and can stay for as long as they want.

Read his letter here:

"My name is Justin and I have been married for five years but my marriage is heading down the rocks because of the attitude of my wife, Idara. She is so troublesome and heady, so much that she fights and insults my family members, especially my parents.

Before we got married, Idara was one nice and gentle lady who showed so much love to my family and I can remember that it was my mother who insisted I get married to her because of her gentle nature. Idara was so accommodating and my siblings came to love her and often took sides with her whenever we had issues.

I never knew she was doing all those things to get them to support her because I also had another lady who also wanted me to marry her. Shortly after our wedding, Idara began showing signs of possessiveness and started laying down the rules.

She started getting petty and uncomfortable whenever members of my family came to visit. She made it clear they were not welcome and that they need to seek her permission before coming. At first, I thought she just wanted some privacy since we were newly married but I later noticed that her people were always welcome while she was mad anytime my people came.

I remember when mother came to visit and had planned to stay for some weeks but my wife told me plainly that my mother had to leave after just three days. I insisted that my mother can stay as long as she wanted but Idara got mad at this and took it out on my mother. She would starve the poor woman whenever I was not around, locking the food in the fridge or even locking the kitchen.

When my mother complained, my wife insulted her and told her she should go back to her husband's house or go and stay with her other children. I tried to talk sense into her but she insulted and abused the hell out of me.

This trend has continued and has caused a serious friction between my family and myself as they have vowed never to come to my house. My mother refused to come when our first child was born and almost two years down the line, she has not seen her grandchild while my siblings too have alienated me all because of my wife.

I am really fed up and don't know if I can continue in the marriage any longer.


The teaser for the day was:

What would you do if your spouse does not want to see your family members?

How Nigeria voted:

I will also stop his/her family members from coming to my house - 65%

I will try and manage the situation - 13%

I will divorce him/her - 22%

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