'My husband is hooked on pornography'

isaac dachen

March 21, 2017 10:14 AM

Samantha loves her husband and father of two children but he has a dark secret she has been trying too hard to come to terms with.

This worried lady needs advice (Illustration)

Before now, was the model husband and father and never joked with the things of God. Because of his commitment, he was made a worker and he encouraged me to join the choir.

We never missed church and religious activities and our pastor often used us to set examples on how a Christian family should be like.

But all that changed when he joined this so called 'all boys' club' and they began hanging out. At first, I did not see anything wrong with my husband being part of the gang as they call themselves but when he began to keep late nights, go out for their boys' time out and all those stuff, I became worried and told him so.

But he told me the gang only hang out to have harmless fun, watch soccer and generally catch on old times but when he started coming back home drunk, I knew I was in trouble.

Then he started sleeping out and whenever I questioned him, he would tell me he is the man and has a right to do whatever he wants. He then began missing church and even visits and calls by the visitation committee have not made him see reason whey he should change his ways.

The whole thing got to an end when I noticed that Tayo was always with his laptop and was becoming secretive. He would often lock himself in the study whenever he was not at work and my initial thought was that he was into some shady deal.

I placed the laptop on high alert and one day when he forgot to go to work with it, I opened it since I have the password and what I saw threw me off balance.

It was glaring that my husband was hooked on pornography as there were many photos of naked women and girls with over 20 videos of pornography.

I was still in a daze when he came back and I confronted him with what I saw and he flared up and told me I had no right to invade his privacy.

Since then, he has changed his password and it seems he is more deep into it as he has even lost interest in sex. I fear this love of porn could grow into Tayo seeing other women, that is if he has not even started cheating on me.

I have begged him, threatened him several times but he is not in a hurry to change. I cannot expose him to our pastor or tell anyone what he is doing but I am really worried I may lose my husband to porn.

Samantha."

Dear readers, as much as Samantha is trying to shield her husband, it seems he does not really care what she feels. On Morning Teaser today, we want you to advise her on what to do.

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