Pulse Blogger Identity Crisis

We all go through some identification definition at different facets of our existence here on earth.

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Identity Crisis

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We all go through some identification definition at different facets of our existence here on earth. What do we think of ourselves at every season of our lives?

This has a way to determine the definition you give or not give yourself. It also means that we are constantly redefining our humanity based on our thoughts.


These three words have caused wars and rumors of wars between desire and responsibility. Between spontaneity and self-discipline. If you cannot say distinctly that this is who you are at any given time in your life, then you have defined yourself by one word CONFUSED.

A person confused is swayed by everything that comes in his/her path and cannot be held accountable for anything. Held accountable also means cannot be entrusted with anything.

Take a confused man who cannot seem to make a decision on the business path he wants to embark upon and build a solid future with.

Every business looks like a gemstone project waiting to be dug out and exploited. He is always looking for some new innovative idea that would instantly revolutionize the earth and of course make him hit the money bag in a big bang. When a particular business fails, it’s everyone’s fault and never his.

Let’s take another example of a lady this time that cannot seem to follow through with a career path. Today, it’s a professional exam. The next day, it’s a network marketing opportunity that could make a straight shoot up in the career ladder.

She is constantly taking new steps and burning bridges with old achievements. When she hits a brick wall, she simply shrugs and on to the net line of career that could be the career for her.

We can also look at the angle of relationships. If you are unable to clearly define who you are? You will most definitely attract ALL kinds of people. Why? There is a definition called CONFUSED which you have so given yourself because you won’t define who you really are.

Identity crisis ensues when we think the people we relate with are much better than we are and so, we need to define ourselves based on the perception we view them. I wish it was always so easy to attain identification by copying what others are.

Fortunately, every person is uniquely made and crafted and fit for them and their world. You can make the right steps to identifying who you are. It’s not a walk in the park. You have work to do but I know you can get it done.

There are steps to take to avoid the identity people face in every generation and I know with necessary help, you can overcome this crisis and able to help others.


Article written by Olabisi Oluyele Adebiyi

Olabisi Oluyele Adebiyi is a relationship coach, public speaker, trainer, blogger, media personality and a plus size fashion entrepreneur. She is driven with the passion to help people manage their relationships in whatever sphere in life.

She strongly believes that a life of absolute balance is like reaching for the stars: if you don’t get to the stars, you should most definitely land on the moon. She loves music, cartoons, movies, travel, good food and the beach. She can be reached on the following social media platforms

Blog site: www.askyelelive.blogspot.com.ng

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