What’s Trending in our Relationships?

Gone are the days when a man who is interested in a lady goes all out to seek her attention—suddenly showing up in places she might be, borrowing stuff from his friends to impress her, even taking crap from the girl so long as he thinks there is a chance she’ll change her mind and return his feelings. He’ll do anything just to show her he’ll always be there for her…haba! It goes on and on.

These days, men don’t need to go that far, stressing themselves for someone who might even reject you at the end of the day. Here is what they do instead: A man sits in his house or hotel room (if he traveled from another town for business) then gives the lady he claims to be madly in love with a call or a ping and say, “Hey babe, where are you? I’m at home/hotel room. Let’s hang out, grab some dinner and catch up.” That’s someone the girl may have never met before or just a few times.

The lady, meanwhile, doesn't bother to ask why he is not the one coming to her. All she thinks of is how she will get there; does she have money for cab? Will there be any benefits taking time off for the guy? Instead it’s just, “Address, please. I’ll be on my way sooner or later.”

What is she thinking? That the man won’t try to get what he wants from her? Or throw more corn for the “hen” to follow? Na wa for our ladies o! Please learn to be more valuable in the eyes of men—and in your own eyes, for that matter. The more he chases you, the more he wants you, if and only if he loves you.

Where is the love tradition? Men have obviously made ladies to know they don’t care about those old traditional love rules. It’s the modern era. Everything can be done with just a phone or computer. But what we don’t know is, could phones and computers actually handle the pressure of relationships?