SexVille Tuesday: 8 Sex Mistakes You Should Never Commit

2. Never talk about past sexual relationships: Many of us think it is cool talking about our exes, what they did right, how they made us feel. They say these things innocently thinking their spouses will learn from those super lovers. But if they were so super, you should have stuck with them, so as you are not with them, let their prowess stay in your head. Don't invite distress into your current romance by reminiscing about the good times or bad times you've had with other jerks, hotties, players or lovers. Focus on the present and making it the most memorable.

3. Never let sex get routine: Most of us, especially, after two years of marriage, allow sex to become just a routine act they have to engage in. They see sex as just one of the functions they have to carry out in the home, just like cooking and washing. No way, this should not be so. While it is wise to get in a routine to make sure sex happens, don't let the sex itself get routine. This only invites monotony and the mundane. To keep things hot, be sure to keep things new and fresh. Always come up with new reasons to have sex, not just for making babies or just doing your spouse a favour.

4. Never just lie there: This is one of the most common complaints couples make about their sex lives. A big complaint you'll hear from men and women alike is that their lover didn't do much of anything during sex. Many men have grumbled that their women don't respond or move during lovemaking. Know that men like their women to be active during sex, one that will respond to his moves, return every thrust, take initiatives and sometimes become the boss. This shows and tells the men that they are being appreciated and are doing the right thing.

5. Never fail to tell him what you want: Most women, especially in these parts, feel if they tell their men what they want to be done to them, they will be looked at as sluts or loose women but I know for a fact that it is better to tell your man what you want instead of letting him guess what he should do to you; he will never get it done the way you want it done. Shake off that smug belief and take control. Tell your man where to touch you to bring you off. You alone you’re your extra erogenous zone (EEZ) and know what can be done to you to make you have that earth shattering orgasm. You know the rhythm of thrusts that will make you feel good, you know when he should plunge in deeper, faster, slowly and you can actually control the tempo of you love making. So tell your man what you want.

6. Never compare your man to another: Yes, your friends at work talk and you all compare notes. One woman could tell you how endowed her man is; another will tell you what her man does to her or yet another will tell you about the staying power of her man. All these could get to you and you end up comparing your husband to other men. Hey, stop that and only concentrate on what you have. You can actually make your man the Adonis and sex god you desire by following these tips.

7. Never doubt your sex appeal: I have heard some women say they do not have sex appeal and that is why their sex life is wacky. Okay, I tell them that their sex appeal is just a matter of conjecture. It is what you make of yourself that you will definitely bring out. If you think you do not have the kind of sex appeal that will drive your husband wild, then you will lack the ability to make him long for you. But when you believe in yourself, your ability to be the woman he wants, then you will be the woman he wants. It is as simple as that.

8. Never think you are too old to enjoy sex: After two babies, most women think they are too old to enjoy sex with their husbands. Most of their thoughts turn to the kids and they see sex as martyrdom, a duty they must perform without real enjoyment. But you are dead wrong here. Just like they say, age is just in your mind and you are as old as you think. If you are above 40, you can still enjoy the kind of sex you used to enjoy at 20. It just needs you tuning your mind to it. Do not give your husband reason to think he is laboring in vain or that he does not deserve you again. He needs assurance that you are still the sexy woman he married.

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