Readers say they will cope with a sexually weak spouse

Patrick is a one-minute man when it comes to sex and she is worried about getting married to him and finding sexual satisfaction with other men.

Read her story here:

"My name is Omolola, a 26-year-old lady living and working in Lagos. I am supposed to get married to Patrick in three months’ time but from the look of things, I am not sure I am going to go ahead with the marriage.

My reason is the fact that Patrick is not man enough when it comes to sex and I don’t want to get married to a man and still sleep with other men.

Patrick has a sexual problem that has defied all forms of treatment. He has a very weak erection and anytime he manages to get it erect, he ejaculates within seconds, sometimes even before penetrating me.

I spend close to 30 minutes working on his penis and just when I have succeeded in working it into an erection, it deflates immediately.

Patrick is such a caring and loving man and I love him so much but the one problem that has to do with sex is giving me a second thought on the marriage because I had promised myself that once I get married, I would never have anything to do with another man again.

I know many people will say sex is not food but if we are sincere, we all know that sex is very important in a marriage, and not just for childbearing alone.

I am a sexually active woman and I will not pretend not to like sex, so no one should tell me to bear with the situation.

I don’t think I can cope getting married to a man and still be sleeping with other men.

Omolola.”

The teaser for the day was:

Would you cope with a spouse who is sexually weak?

How Nigeria voted:

Yes, I will cope as sex is not the most important thing - 37%

No, I will not be able to cope - 25%

Sex is very important in a relation - 28%

Sex is not very important in a relationship - 10%

What would be your vote here?