Relationship Talk "It bothers me that my man doesn't introduce me as his babe"

Is this a normal thing, or am I right to be suspicious?

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Hi Bukky,

What does it mean when a guy does not like to introduce you to his friends?

I just began dating this guy for about three weeks actually, and on few occasions we have met people he calls his friends, he does not introduce me as his girl, he just calls me a friend.

That has happened only two times actually, but I am concerned that it won’t stop.

I wanted to react when he did it the second time but I swallowed my annoyance because I did not want to embarrass myself.

After the date, he apologized, saying he did not want to quickly introduce me to everyone as we have just only started to date, and he wanted us to go some distance before we begin to know our friends and all that.

That sounded a bit sensible, but I still feel a kind of unease at this kind of arrangement.

Am I overreacting, or is he just actually taking his time?

Is this a normal thing, or am I right to be suspicious?
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Dear reader,

Three weeks is indeed a short time, to be sincere. However, you are not wrong to get your suspicions up.

In my opinion, your boyfriend’s behaviour is indeed strange. I would think if you just began to date someone, you’d be buzzing to introduce them to everyone you know.

As a matter of fact, the friends should have known about you before the relationship began, because guys like talking to their friends about girls they are interested in.

So, in an ideal situation, the friends should have heard about you even before you agreed to date him, and after you say yes to him, introducing you to them as “that girl” should not be a big deal, except something shady is actually happening.

While that is a possibility, his explanation might be genuine too, because truly, three weeks is still such a short time to make any concrete decisions.

The explanation does not sound reassuring enough in my opinion. So, in any case, I think you are right to be suspicious.

You might want to give him a little more time though, just in case he’s actually being sincere with you.
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