When Shaquille O'Neal Gives Relationship Advice: Why Absolute Honesty Isn't Always the Answer

If you were looking for relationship advice, an NBA legend might not be your first port of call. Yet, in March 2025, Shaquille O'Neal found himself discussing precisely that on a podcast. And as often happens when Shaq speaks, the conversation quickly veered off the beaten path. During his appearance on the “It’s Giving” podcast, host Sara Fontenot posed a seemingly simple yet timeless question: should one be completely honest with their partner?

O'Neal's answer was immediate and direct, much like his play on the court. “No, because you don’t have to be completely honest,” he stated.

The declaration immediately sparked interest, not only for its content but also because it contradicts much of modern relationship psychology. Many scientific studies consider honesty a fundamental pillar of a healthy relationship. A 2025 University of Rochester study, which tracked over 200 couples, concluded that both actual and perceived honesty are directly linked to satisfaction and overall well-being within a relationship. Even when the truth is uncomfortable, researchers suggest it remains crucial for long-term stability.

O'Neal, however, views the issue differently. He doesn't dismiss honesty entirely, but rather believes that not everything needs to be said, always, and with every detail. To explain his reasoning, he presented a hypothetical scenario. “Let’s say we’re in a semi-open relationship, right? And you call me. Do you want me to say: ‘I’m with a chick, I’m going to try to do something, and I’ll call you back later?’”

For him, that would be the raw truth — but without any real benefit. O'Neal argued there's a significant difference between lying and simply not sharing every piece of information. Instead of harsh and potentially hurtful honesty, he suggested a more “functional” response: “Baby, I’m with a friend, I’ll call you back” or “I’ll call you in 20 minutes, I’m in a meeting.”

The message gets across, he believes, without introducing unnecessary details that could create tension. For him, this isn't deception, but rather emotional management.

The Hall of Famer clarified his philosophy with a phrase that encapsulates his stance: “Sometimes you have to protect them. You have to protect feelings. That’s all I’m saying.”