Here's why some people can't orgasm from oral sex

It's very common for women to never have an orgasm, and some people specifically can't orgasm from oral sex

Lots of women don't love the actual sensations of oral sex because they don't find it pleasurable, or they just don't like the experience. We all have our own preferences, and what's comfortable to one woman could be uncomfortable for another.

Of course orgasms are fun and feel great, but you can have a lot of pleasure without having an orgasm. If you want to orgasm during oral, it can happen.

A lot of people like the feeling, but have a paralysing mental blockage that gets in the way of enjoying it. More often, people feel like giving oral is a chore for the other person so they get self-conscious about the experience.

Other people find oral sex a little lonely, because their partner is so far away and they can't make eye contact.

If you're with a new partner, it's fine to just be straightforward about your attitude toward oral — but be open to the possibility that they could change your mind. Give it a try again, because there's such a different experience from partner to partner — they do it in different ways and we have different connections. You can tell your partner you've never really been a fan, and that has nothing to do with them, but it's never really worked for you.

And if it just takes you a long time to orgasm from oral sex, take your time and embrace it. So in order to have an orgasm, you have to feel pleasure. Use the time to really feel good in your body, whatever that means for you.

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