BNXN Laments the Harsh Reality of Love in Lagos

Afrobeats sensation BNXN appears to be exhausted navigating the Lagos dating scene, at least from the sound of his recent social media confession. The ‘Outside’ hitmaker recently fired off a brutally honest take about romance in Nigeria’s restless commercial capital, tweeting to his followers on the X patform: “To find love for Eko too hard for me o.”

Benson’s remarks blew open a fresh conversation about the chaos of modern dating in one of Africa’s fastest, flashiest, and most emotionally unforgiving cities. BNXN didn’t even expand on the thought, but he didn’t need to. The frustration hit home instantly, echoing a sentiment many Lagosians whisper publicly and privately: this city will test your heart as much as your hustle.

BNXN’s tweet immediately set X ablaze with fans flocking under to express their Lagos-dating conspiracy theories:

If anyone is qualified to make bleak proclamations about love, it’s BNXN. Romance has trailed him through the spotlight for years, though not always gracefully. In 2022, the singer faced a very public storm when a private video was leaked by a woman claiming they were in a relationship. Accusations flew, headlines rotated, and for a moment, the music took a backseat.

Then came the now-infamous confession: a younger, visibly shaken BNXN admitting in a raw social media post that he was “incapable of loving anybody in this world asides Peggy.” He owned up to his mistakes, writing, “Na me just dey do rubbish. For the first time in my life, I’m heartbroken and me cause am.”

It was messy, brutally honest, and deeply human. It’s no wonder he poured all that emotion into his 2023 debut Sincerely, Benson. Yet, he still appears to be searching for an emotional steadiness the city refuses to offer.

While his love life feels like a dead end, BNXN’s career is doing the exact opposite, accelerating without brakes. Since breaking out, he has collected a stack of major wins, including the coveted Headies Next Rated award in 2022, a rite of passage for future giants. 

The July release of his sophomore album, Captain has been a commercial success. The project has been named among the most streamed Nigerian albums of 2025 on Spotify. 

Yet, as the streams climb and the awards accumulate, BNXN’s remarks show a struggle between professional triumphs and personal fulfilment. For all the bright lights and industry acclaim, finding genuine connection in a city defined by hustle remains the ultimate challenge for the Afrobeats star.