"I really like having him around but I just don’t think we’ll be good if we had a proper relationship."
I met this guy through a friend a while back, and we had this connection but I was not ready for a relationship at the time, so instead of giving in to his advances, I told him I was not interested in a relationship but we could chill and stuff.
I was only healing from a terrible break up at the time so it was a decision I easily made- yes to sex and no to emotions.
For some reason however, this guy began asking for a relationship again after three months. I have managed to keep the situation at bay for so long but he keeps insisting and now says he would rather stop all forms of contact with me than continue the kind of agreement we have.
I really like having him around but I just don’t think we’ll be good if we had a proper relationship where we are exclusive to each other and all.
I have the feeling that a relationship with him won’t end well but I still would love to hold on to him. It’s kinda greedy I know, but I’m just confused.
Please advise me
Let’s jump right into this – I think you need to give the man a chance. Why? Because you will never know until you try.
Will he remain good and gentle as he is now after you become a real couple? Well, there’s only one way to know - say yes to him.
Another thing to consider is the threat that he’s going to leave you if you say no. So it’s like a lose-lose situation for you. If you refuse to say no, he leaves, and you get neither the relationship or any other type of contact with him.
Besides, who says things have to always end badly? Do not let past experiences stop you from reaching out for better experiences.
There’s no promise that this will be bliss unending, but it’s worth the try.
My advice, give it a shot and enjoy every second of it – even if it lasts just a month… or maybe a lifetime.
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