"Does playing hard to get actually work?" [Part 2]

Hello Ladies, hope everyone has been great. Today, I continue on the topic of "Playing hard to get". If you missed the first, see here.

Now lets pick up from where we left off... I had just given you my remedy to actually being hard to get and not just playing hard to get. I have talked about the fact that "playing hard to get will get you nowhere since this is just acting and really does not last as he gets to see you for whatever you truly are. I have said instead of "playing", actually be hard to get and this can only happen when you have a life. For any man to consider you as high value and treat you thus, you have to be high value.

See, the thing is that high value men (the type we want in our lives) can smell insecurity from 8000 miles away. They can tell the strength of your confidence by how you carry yourself, the things you say and your reactions to happenings around you. Once they see you exhibit low value then they loose interest. These type of men are constantly seeking their equal in quality and the best of the best. So, to be treated like the best, you need to be the best. Once again, this has noting to do with acting. You actually have to constantly improve yourself to be high value.

I know you may be thinking "Okay so how do I have get a life... How do I become High value?" I will give you 2 things you can start doing immediately to help you become a more desirable and high value woman high value men will give anything to be with. This will help you find yourselves firsts and then find Mr Perfect. Be warned, these are not the easiest but they are very necessary! Okay shall we?

1. Be true to yourself

*Eyesroll* I know I know... this sounds a bit cliché but like I say, a cliché is one because it must have truth to it. A lot of women have become so good at pretending, they have no idea how to get back to being real. Hell, some don't even know they are not being real. Their pretense has become their reality. It is okay if this applies to you because it is not a hopeless situation. I was very much in this place at some point in my life. I had become very good at controlling my reactions, making sure I was "ladylike" in everything I did. Heck, I couldn't even breathe out of place. Now this stemmed from long years of insecurities and constantly being afraid of "being found out". I was so terrified of what people would think about me, that if I even expressed my thoughts people will laugh me to scorn so I just was usually quiet.

Even when I finally got over most of my insecurities, I didn't realise how closed off I still was. I had gotten so used to not expressing my feelings and so I suppressed them. One day, it hit me how angry I had become because of all the feelings surpressed. I had turned into this vindictive and judgemental person which is the direct opposite of feminine energy. Basically, I was unhappy. One day I decided to change everything. I read a couple of materials and made a decision to be as real, as open and as expressive as I can be. Now, I speak out when I am being treated less than I deserve, I laugh at the top of my lungs when I find something funny, I dance when I am happy, and instead of convincing myself of my strength, I cry like a baby when I am hurt. I am true to my feelings. Be true to yours, In other words, be authentic.

High value men are attracted to authentic. Just the same way needy or low value behavior repels them, authentic feminine energy draws them in. So, live in the moment, express yourself at every chance you get. Be as true to yourself as possible.

2. Be on a continued path of improvement

Improve yourself! Every chance you get, take a step to make yourself better. It is no good wishing for a high value man to come and change your life if you are not willing to change it yourself. Finish school, start a business, read a book, get a job, buy properties, volunteer for something, loose weight, do exercise, eat more, eat healthy etc. Whatever it is you choose to begin with, start improving areas of your life today. See, we spend more time thinking and complaining about the things we don't like when we should actually be working towards changing them.

Truth is, constant improvement raises your level of confidence which in turn makes you more attractive an approachable. There literally is nothing more sexy than a woman not burdened with the weight of insecurities. She laughs louder, smiles more and is generally considered friendlier. She is less focused on her problems but rather on helping other people solve theirs. Lift the weight of insecurities from off your shoulder... make it a lifestyle to change something for the better every chance you get.

Be committed to this. It will change your life, I promise.

Love always,

Emife is a relationship coach who loves to give priceless and undiluted relationship advice. she was not made by adding sugar and spices in a bowl so she speaks the truth with no coatings. she tries her best to be as nice as possible when necessary but then she will smack you back to reality when you need it.