You intentionally open the door to let your emotions push you over and take charge of how you behave and react to situations. The actions you take in relative to your emotions are not influenced but you practically do not have control over your emotions.

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Imagine going through a period where your partner just calls off the relationship, the other party’s intention is I am done and I want to move on, he/she did not say I am done and I want you to be sad or I want you to feel depressed but the reaction we portray later is a result of inability or ability to control our emotions.

To gain total control of your emotions, here are the very 4 steps

1) Try to discover what exactly you are feeling: What and how exactly do you feel? Happy, Angry, Depressed and lots more, Identify these first.

2) Draw up a Self-questionnaire: Remember every emotion actually comes as a mechanism to make you express yourself better, be it Negative or Positive, but we will be looking at the Negatives.

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But then what do you want?

That one word said by the other party has brought a number of feelings, the main question is HOW EXACTLY DO YOU WANT TO FEEL?

Do you want to let the situation get to you or do you want to let it go? Do you really want to be angry, sad or depressed?

Is this break up in any way positive? Now, I can start living my dreams or now I can get to understand myself better, what can be positive about this experience or scenario.

By this, you are trying to find a way out and get empowered. You only get locked out by your emotions if you just fall for it how it comes.

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3) Brace Up, be your best self: Go through timelines, let previous experiences work for you.

Ask yourself, has this ever happened to me before and how did I get over it or do I know someone it has happened to previously, how did they go through it?

Get these steps, tell yourself you can do it.

Do not feel you are alone or this is a die-hard stage, everyone has gone through this emotional phase and you too can do it.

4) Take Action and trust the process: All you have discovered is enough, now it is time to take action and get over that emotion.

The best time to deal with an emotion is when you immediately start to feel it, do not wait, everything grows, so does emotions but if you handle it right you will rather let the positive emotions grow rather than the negative emotions.