I don't know if you can relate but I can be in a situation for so long and decide to be blind to a lot of things, oh I might bring up issues from time to time or mention whatever it is I'm not comfortable with maybe once in a while but I would not let go at the time that I should which eventually builds up a lot of pain and it is dangerous, highly dangerous emotionally and mentally.

Some of us are in abusive relationships and we do not even realize it. I'm not talking physical abuse now (although if you are in a physically abusive relationship and you have not realized that you need to get out of that place now, I would say a prayer of wisdom for you), I am referring to the other & also important type of abuse that we do not pay a lot of attention to; Emotional & Mental abuse.

Now that I know better, I believe that relationships are not supposed to be stressful, yes I know there would unavoidably be friction and fights but nothing that should be purposely induced on/by your partner, that's just plain selfish, so when you are in a relationship that constantly stresses you the it's time to have a serious talk with your partner. We all know communication is key in any relationship so if you cannot have a meaningful discussion with your partner concerning issues that you have then you are doing it wrong.

What then happens after the serious conversation or conversations (depending on how stubborn you both are LOL) and nothing changes? You still feel like you are not doing enough, you have constant headaches, there is always something y'all are fighting about and even your patience feels like it’s being taken for granted? Errr.... Time to let go.

Believe me it is hard, very hard, you probably want to try once more but how many more times would you try before you break yourself? You do not want to continue to invest so much love, time, energy, maybe even money into something unproductive, that's a killer right there and you should move so you don't keep hurting yourself.

If there is another problem I have, it is looking back when I do let go. Oh that's probably not a problem now that I think about it but why look back? Learn your lesson, regret a little but do not waste any more time in moving on. Yes you probably have to explain to family and friends that it’s not just about your partner

Cheating on you or beating you up but being emotionally abused for years, yes they might not understand but it's your life and you are the one that needs to grow. Evaluate your relationship right now to be sure you are not in a toxic relationship. If you are and you believe in God then take it to Him in prayer, if you still have hope and your partner is willing to make it work then talk about it and if you are the one abusing your partner, I hope you see how much pain it causes and have a change of character.

I'd like to hear your thoughts on this so please drop your comments.

Wumi Oguntuase is a Mass Communication graduate, content creator, stylist and blogger. She shares major fashion & style inspirations, her views on love & life on her personal blog