Dear anonymous,

Oral sex, when done correctly, offers prime clitoral contact. While technique varies, and different women prefer different things, most of the time the clitoris is at the forefront of the oral sex scene.

If you’re using a vibrator, fingers, or your partner’s pelvis to stimulate the clitoris during intercourse, your chances of having an orgasm drastically increase.

The problem? Most women don’t even know they should be using a vibrator or their fingers to stimulate their clits during sex. We have a depressingly horrible sex ed system in this country.

Oral sex, on the other hand, is all about the clitoris. It’s not exactly something you learn in school, but once you experience it, it can completely rock your world.

While I admit that not every woman enjoys oral sex, most are big fans. It deserves to get the recognition it has long missed.

The guilt so many women feel around this matter is tired, worn-out, and completely unfair. You have permission to want oral sex over intercourse. You have permission to like whatever you like in bed, whenever you like it.

If you need a certain sex act to have an orgasm, embrace it. You are not less-than for preferring oral sex. You are not broken. You just like having your clitoris licked—which is straight-up normal.